My life rule’s.

What principles define how you live?

I swear I have been waiting for this question all my life.

I pride myself on being a person with boundaries and principles. Some may say its toxic others say I’m insecure but for me, having rules and boundaries is my way of protecting myself.

Now my rules are different for each relationship I have.

For example I dont text my friends after midnight but I will probs call my best/ close friends all through the night to catch up or for gossip.

These rules are the reason for me only having one situationship in my life, thank God.

If I’m in a relationship here are some of my principles :

• Be honest with me even if its bad.
• Never go to bed angry.
• No matter how long we are in the relationship, consent is sexy.
• Communication is a must.
• Ect…

The list isn’t long, super complicated or complex. Just some simple guidelines so that make sure we’re both comfortable and have a healthy relationship.

If theres ever a case in which some one crosses or ignores my boundaries, then there are always gonna be consequences.

For instance, if instead of communicating your feelings, you give me the silent treatment; thats you basically teaching me to live life without you.

I’m not saying that I’m gonna break up with you just because you didnt tell me why you feel frustrated or sad. In that case, I would give you space to sort your feelings and all, but I would rather you talk to me sooner rather than later.

An example of breaking boundaries with mates or friends, is if there pushing me to do something, and I have already said no. Aka peer pressure. I dislike peer pressure ,with a passion, and im sure many others agree. If I have already said no ,clearly, to you, then I’m obviously not going to be happy when your still insisting to do said thing or forcing me to do it.

Obviously, thats was a very extreme example of ignoring boundaries but the idea still stands.

You have human right’s for a reason and nobody has the right to be made uncomfortable or hurt because of someone else’s actions.

Stay safe darlings’. Ranita xx.