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  • What does being a good person mean?

    What makes a good neighbor?

    Being a good person, neighbour or other, might look different for each person. Some characteristics will include being kind and respectful to others and yourself; but I can’t help wonder about what it really means.

    By a quick google search we see that the definition of being a good person is having and demonstrating positive traits like kindness, compassion, honesty, integrity, and empathy, while acting with consideration for others’ well-being and contributing positively to society.

    However, for me to be a good person is a vague statement and all depends on the situation one finds itself and their reaction to that situation.

    Only 10% of your life is what happens the other 90% is your reaction.

    – unknown

    A good neighbour is, again, different for different people.

    For some people it’s not about being friends more just about being tolerant of each other and kind.

    An example of this is with my friend (Jane) and her neighbour. They aren’t and don’t have to be best or even just friends but they were more acquaintances than anything else. One time, Jane had to borrow a ladder from her neighbour ,Mike. The only condition was she had to return the week after. However, they didn’t get the ladder back to Mike till half a dozen months later, when Jane did eventually give the ladder back, Mike was respectful and polite, only thanking them that he got it… eventually.

    Moral of that story is just being kind to someone even if they make a mistake, one mistake won’t make the end of the world.

    Stay kind, stay safe and have a good one xx.

    Ranita

  • New experiences and adventures.

    What could you try for the first time?

    For me, I am all for new stuff. Now, stuff can mean anything ranging from hobbies, to vacations, to something as little as trying new food.

    Trying something new and out of your comfort zone can be a really challenging experience. However it’s so important to do that as it helps us grow as people.

    For instance, I would love to go bungee jumping in New Zealand ( definitely not purely because of the fact it was in the twisted series, twisted hate,).

    From the day I was born I have always been an adrenaline junky. It does help that I have a barely functioning risk assessment and am incredibly brave because of it.

    To sum everything up, I am always down to try something new and exiting. So get out of your comfort zone and try something new today even if it’s scary it’s always good to try.

    Write you soon xx.

    Ranita

  • My life rule’s.

    What principles define how you live?

    I swear I have been waiting for this question all my life.

    I pride myself on being a person with boundaries and principles. Some may say its toxic others say I’m insecure but for me, having rules and boundaries is my way of protecting myself.

    Now my rules are different for each relationship I have.

    For example I dont text my friends after midnight but I will probs call my best/ close friends all through the night to catch up or for gossip.

    These rules are the reason for me only having one situationship in my life, thank God.

    If I’m in a relationship here are some of my principles :

    • Be honest with me even if its bad.
    • Never go to bed angry.
    • No matter how long we are in the relationship, consent is sexy.
    • Communication is a must.
    • Ect…

    The list isn’t long, super complicated or complex. Just some simple guidelines so that make sure we’re both comfortable and have a healthy relationship.

    If theres ever a case in which some one crosses or ignores my boundaries, then there are always gonna be consequences.

    For instance, if instead of communicating your feelings, you give me the silent treatment; thats you basically teaching me to live life without you.

    I’m not saying that I’m gonna break up with you just because you didnt tell me why you feel frustrated or sad. In that case, I would give you space to sort your feelings and all, but I would rather you talk to me sooner rather than later.

    An example of breaking boundaries with mates or friends, is if there pushing me to do something, and I have already said no. Aka peer pressure. I dislike peer pressure ,with a passion, and im sure many others agree. If I have already said no ,clearly, to you, then I’m obviously not going to be happy when your still insisting to do said thing or forcing me to do it.

    Obviously, thats was a very extreme example of ignoring boundaries but the idea still stands.

    You have human right’s for a reason and nobody has the right to be made uncomfortable or hurt because of someone else’s actions.

    Stay safe darlings’. Ranita xx.

  • A question from my mother…

    What have you been putting off doing? Why?

    Now as simple as this question is, you would need an entire ancient scroll for the amount of tasks I have procrastinated.

    For example,

    • Tidying my room
    • Studying for my upcoming assessment
    • Going on a walk or run
    • Going to the store

    Even with just simple things I struggle finding motivation to complete said task.

    Some things to help with procrastination can be the promo timer technique and doing small tasks immediately. Other solutions may be, ‘biting the frog’ where you finish the hardest tasks first.

    For me personally I’m still trying to figure out what works. However, if I’m on a call I can get through putting the laundry away in no-time.

    Moving on, have a good day and see you soon, Ranita xx.

  • late nights and early morning vibes x

    Like most people, I have an extremely busy life, and as an audhd this fact causes me to burn out more often. Some days I will leave the comfort of my bed at an ungodly hour in the morning, only to return back during the night. In addition, having to include studying and work outs is getting increasingly exhausting.

    Taking time out to recover is very important for your mental health, as being burnt out (especially as an autistic and adhd person) sucks. But, if you do it right its all for the better, since building skills characteristics, as well as being confident in your craft and skill, can help you in the future.For example, setting up a business on said skill or choosing your career to do something you love is very important.

    For me, I love fashion. I enjoy working with fabric, tailoring and making all sorts of stuff. I love the idea of fashion an tech coming together to make amazing pieces of work and design.

    My company/business will be called animalitos and will have different branches. The fashion branch is gonna be named ranita meaning little frog.

    Anyways back on topic, to sum everything up, burnout sucks and you need to take time to recover your energy.

    Theres a theory on this called the spoon theory, stay with me. The spoon theory is where each person gets 12 spoons each day, each task takes a different amount of spoons depending on the task. For example, taking meds is equal to one spoon, reading or scrolling is equal to two spoons, cleaning three and school/work is four spoons.

    Now, heres the catch, neurotypical people regain their spoons when they sleep. Whereas, neurospicy individuals like myself recover spoons irregularly. In addition, people with disabilities such as ME or Anemia, in which a symptom is lack of energy, get less spoons per day.

    You’re allowed to take spoons from the day after or the day after that but theres a limit to how many days you can take from.

    A burnout is a way for us to recover spoons by doing absolutely nothing.

    Burning out looks different for everyone but most commonly is like ‘duvet days’, or just laying on your bed not having the energy to get up.

    So guys, moral of the story is to always take care of your bodys and minds, and yes it’s a priority.

    See you soon Ranita’s x

  • The social hierarchy

    Although I’m grateful that, as a nation, we’ve moved beyond rigid social hierarchies like the concept of “the Great Chain of Being,” it’s clear that many remnants of structures like these still influence our society today. Whether it’s because of the environment in which the individual grew up, race and ethnicity, wages, or just the fact that some people look different and/or stand out, these hierarchical patterns continue to shape our job environment, life in school, and daily interactions—often in ways we don’t realize.

    An example of this is that most people won’t treat a janitor (or any other minimal paying job) with the same respect as a CEO or someone associated with wealth and power. The same may also be shown with having a different race and ethnicity as others. 

    In the past, being of black or mixed ethnicity was always looked down upon as white races deemed themselves superior. In addition, even though society is more accepting, there are very concerning rates of suicide and bullying for black individuals compared to white individuals, particularly among the youth.

    Factors and influences that will contribute to the significant disparities will be racism and discrimination which will lead to prejudice and feelings of hopelessness. Also, black youth often have less access to mental health support and services due to stigma (explained more in a different post!) and socioeconomic barriers, like living in underserved communities. In addition, influences like social media and TV shows or movies will associate black or mixed races with poverty, community violence and being in gangs with weapons and drugs.

    Another common example that I have witnessed first hand is the unspoken hierarchy in high/secondary schools. Most students within those years will follow a curtain set of rules as to not become the victim to teenage cruelty and bullying, or at the bottom of said hierarchy. Those rules may include not speaking or being unreasonably cold or rude to a curtain set of kids, as well as being kinder or not getting on the bad side of another group(s) of kids.

    This will happen, sometimes without noticing, because of the fear of being left out, lonely, bullied, or the subject of many rumours. Being at the bottom of this invisible hierarchy will make you feel invisible yourself or that everyone’s eyes are on you. I have personally watched too many students’ lives be drained and taken, as well as my own.

    However, being at the top or close can either feel suffocating or powerful. I say this because in my experience I had to keep up appearances as well as social life, always worrying about others opinions on my looks and the way i acted around them, while also being a subject of peer pressure into bad choices that then lead to addiction. And don’t even get me started on how much drama kids create and for nothing, like it causes nothing but trouble, splitting up friend groups and year-wide fall-outs. 

    I also mentioned feeling powerful at the top, this is because you know that when you walk into a room most people nod and say hi. But those who have a disliking towards you, they can’t touch you because they know very well they will lose to ‘strength in numbers’.

    As you grow older you might see the similarities between highschool and any other work or learning environment along with the people you meet. In some individuals’ minds, life will be that of a strategy game, your alliances and your rivals being the other people you are playing with and maintaining powerful alliances will offer you a chance at the top as well as nurturing your own money and status will get you there.

    In short, most people are too busy worrying and fussing over what other people think, and also judging other people, that all anyone is going to do is hate and hate. So it doesn’t make any sense to add to that hate when you could do something that makes you happy and that you love. Because in the end, anyone other than yourself is all just noise; you have to decide if you’re going to let that noise stop you or get in the way of your dreams.

  • Debates: Democracy and Dictatorships

    This particular subject is one many avoid; however, with recent events over in the USA, I have been led to ask one question: At what point is a country seen as going from a democracy to a dictatorship?

    Well, in short terms, democracy translates to “rule by the people.” This is because, in a democratic government, there are elections and voting, which show that the members of that government are there because we placed them there. A feature of living under democratic rule is that we have the freedom to criticize the government and how they choose to solve problems within that country.

    On the other hand, dictatorship refers to a system where one person makes all the rules and decisions without anyone else’s input. You could also say that autocracy fits this meaning since the definition is a system of government by one person with absolute power—similar to totalitarianism.

    One opinion is that it could be like a looking-back thing, as we could compare historical events with recent events to predict the outcome, or if it’s looking back and saying as a collective, “this is the starting point that influenced this outcome…” or so on.

    An example of this would be looking back at the cause of WWI and learning that there were many influences that led to the global destruction formally called “the Great War.”

    Alternatively, one of my close friends suggested that it’s when the dictator in question starts to purge what they deem inferior. For example, past dictators like Joseph Stalin, leader of the former USSR, or Adolf Hitler, former leader of Germany, commonly referred to as Nazi Germany under his rule. Even with both dictators being on opposite sides of the political spectrum, both had similar ways to move forward to their goal.

    In Germany’s case, it was the Jews who first suffered a “social death,” as Nazi supporters degraded and dehumanized them on a regular basis to the point it was considered natural. In addition, anybody who also wasn’t considered “proper German” was considered opposition and would be given punishment.

    Similarly, Lenin and Joseph Stalin (Lenin’s successor after his assassination) considered kulaks, prosperous peasant landowners, as enemies wedded to individualism and personal wealth. Therefore, Lenin ordered the public hanging of at least 100 known kulaks, and under Stalin’s rule, he roused Soviet youth and continued the Bolshevik trend.

    Both of these men were infamously known for their authoritarian dictatorial regimes. They were responsible for millions of deaths as a result of purges like “The Night of Broken Glass,” and civilians resorted to famine as a form of retaliation for the murders of their loved ones.

    I would love to hear your view on this debate down below. Be kind to others and respectful to everyone’s opinions. In addition, can you think of any nations that you predict will have a dictatorship in the future?

  • Hello!

    Hello everyone, I’m super excited to start blogging. As this is a new concept for me, there may be grammar mistakes and spoken conjecture. Everyone is free to comment and share their own views and opinions.

    Write to you later, Ranita.